Friday, July 6, 2007

Where is Home?

I have often felt guilty that I have been married for 7 years now and living in our small town and I still have a hard time considering this my home. I still have a tendency to tell people I am from Columbus, I just can't bring my self to say I am from here. I know we will never leave here (since Joel is a farmer) and I need to get used to it! I have often wondered, 'when will I feel at home here?'
I recently read an article in a Christian Magazine about longing for home. It talked about how we get homesick and we are always looking for a place where we truly belong. Being adopted, that is especially true for me. I often felt out of place growing up. I loved my family, but there were always moments when I was reminded I wasn't a blood sibling or daughter. I always thought, when I get married, then I will belong, then when I have kids, I will feel like I fit in.
When Joel and I were first married I moved to his town, into his house, and attended his church. I never felt like we started a new life together. It was more like I transplanted into his. It is hard for me to feel accepted in situations that are already in place. I do much better in a new group with new people. It is less intimidating for me. When Joel and I purchased our first house together 2 years ago, I did feel more at home, that we were in a new place that was only ours, and when we found a new church together, that helped. I really feel like we have grown closer. But even these things change. We had to find another new church last year, and people come and go. As soon as you start to consider a place your 'home' God may have other plans for you.

This article made me think. The author was saying that when you belong to God, you are home. Even though there are times we wish we could just skip this life and go straight to heaven, we can experience home before we leave this world. God is the only permanent thing in your life. I know I need to focus more on God and know that I am home with Him. I know I could enjoy my life more and be more complete if I could change my focus to Him. I tend to wait for something to change, like where I live or who I am with before I can feel complete in my life. Whenever these thoughts tend to creep in, which they will, I am going to think of this article and pray.

1 comment:

Luke and Valerie said...

I am reminded often (by articles or sermons) that I should never feel complete, never feel like I am home, because this life is not all there is. Luke's cousin Sara wrote a similar post about this a while back:
http://justmeandmydogs.blogspot.com/2007/05/cross-pond.html
Thanks for the good food for thought!